7 Things Worth Giving Up To Achieve Happiness
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Maybe, giving up isn’t the villain we always make it out to be. What if it’s actually the solution to a better, brighter, and overall happier life?
And I don’t mean the throw-in-the-towel-and-never-try-again type of giving up; I mean letting go of the things that are ultimately bringing you more harm than good.
Here are 7 things worth giving up to achieve happiness right now:
Life offers so many temptations, some of which include overeating, skipping your daily exercise routine, overusing social media—the list goes on. However, perhaps the most harmful of all temptations, which also happens to be one that we often give in to, is dwelling on the past. I know, I know; it’s easier said that done to stop looking back on the things that could’ve been. However, when the only thing we take from the past are the lessons we learned from it, we allow ourselves to develop. And in the process of freeing up our mind of the things we can no longer change, we open up both our minds and our hearts to the things that could genuinely make us happy in the long run.
If you ever needed to see what holds you back the most from fulfilling your true potential, you might want to look in the mirror. You know your strengths, and you know your weaknesses. Therefore, you are in the best position to know what you can and cannot do—so don’t stop yourself from trying something that you know in your heart is well within your reach. After all, the first step to success is believing in yourself.
This doesn’t only apply to the “due today, do today” attitude of both finishing and submitting requirements at the very last minute. It also means postponing and delaying all the things that could ultimately make you happier. The harsh reality is that time passes by whether or not you make the most of it, so don’t wait until you’re retired, don’t wait until you get promoted. Hell, don’t even wait until tomorrow to do something that could significantly change your life for the better.
Think positive, they say. And okay, it’s not exactly the easiest thing to do, especially in trying times. However, the ability to remain optimistic is what distinguishes those who are able to conquer their problems from those who are simply able to get through them. To live with optimism does not mean to be oblivious to the struggles and challenges that life throws our way; it means being able to view a problem not as something to bring you down, but instead as an opportunity for growth.
One of my favorite books talks about blame in a way that I’m willing to bet you’ve never heard before.
It goes: “There’s a difference between blaming someone else for your situation and that person’s actually being responsible for your situation. Nobody else is ever responsible for your situation but you. Many people may be to blame for your unhappiness, but nobody is ever responsible for your unhappiness but you. This is because you always get to choose how you see things, how you react to things, how you value things. You always get to choose the metric by which to measure your experiences.”
If you’ve never heard of the book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson, I highly recommend that you make buying it the next thing on your to-do list. (And if you learned from #3, you won’t put it off for long.)
Among the 7 things worth giving up on this list, this one is undoubtedly the hardest. We seem to be willing to do so many things for the sake of our happiness, but putting our pride is rarely one of them.
Imagine how many times you could’ve fixed an important relationship by apologizing first, or how many times you could’ve formed a genuine connection with someone if only you let yourself be vulnerable. Time and time again, our pride has gotten in the way. But it has only gotten in the way because we let it—because we’d hate to appear weak, sensitive, or fragile.
Are you willing to let go of your pride for the sake of the happiness you deserve?
Finally, face your fears. And take note, there is more than just one type of fear. You could get rid of your fear of failure, of judgment from others, of not being good enough, of trusting others, of change, and of so many other fears I’m sure came to mind. The point is, a life lived in fear is a life that has not truly seen how great it could be.
If anything, the only thing actually worth being scared of is missing out on genuine happiness because you couldn’t let go of the things you were better off living without.
If you want to learn more about finding happiness, check out Gabby’s blog post: No-Brainer Ways to Find Happiness from A to Z
About the Author
There is one thing Gabby Cruz cannot live without, and it's not her phone; it's gratitude. Although she may be taking up business as a major in college, she remains passionate about helping others develop a gratitude mindset that makes thinking positively second nature through her blog, Ocio Lifestyle.